If it weren’t for the support of others I never would have gotten out of my marriage except by death. In American-eze I’m weak. In American-eze I should have been able to just do it all on my own, no help from anyone, because, dammit, we’re Americans and don’t need any help. This belief system has infected the American church pretty badly. It’s usually covered … Continue reading Share the Pain
I suppose my biggest question is how did the church become a place not of healing for the weak and the outcast and instead become a place where the cruel could not just find a safe place but a place that elevates and enables them? The answer is probably impossible to find because, let’s face it, the church has been this way for over a … Continue reading How Did We Get Here?
I think one of the reasons it is so difficult to create a church that is safe for the truly hurt, the victims of crime, of abuse, etc, is that we have this strange idea that our religion is a formula that, if followed correctly, will radically change the followers’ lives. We like to tell people that the reason they are miserable is because they … Continue reading Whose Fault?
The most difficult thing to find when you have been a victim of anything, abuse, rape, etc, is a safe church. By safe church I mean a place where 1) You are wholeheartedly believed 2) You have 100% support against your aggressor 3) The emphasis of the church is your healing not the restoration of the person who destroyed you. It’s that last one that … Continue reading Safe?
It’s been a long, terrible, stressful three months since I was promoted to the Service Deli. I’ve spent those three months trying to put my finger on it so I could change things. Until Saturday, I was really only grasping at straws. But Saturday, everything came into focus, and it wasn’t the way I expected. I’m not going to go into the exact situation, it’s … Continue reading What It Really Means to Stand with Someone