Side-effects of Ending an Abusive Relationship

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This morning I was given a belated Easter gift (pictured above) that, up until a few months ago, I would have been unable to use.

Shortly after I married, I developed a rash on my skin. I tried creams and I changed my soap and shampoo pretty much at the end of every bottle. No one really had an answer as to why I developed an allergy to every soap and lotion I used.

Several years ago, I began to be able to eat onions and spicy food. I thought that my tastes were simply changing as I grew older, but over the past year or so, I began to notice I couldn’t taste much of anything anymore. I was losing my ability to taste, and even some smells I couldn’t smell.

A few years after I began to be able to eat spicy foods, I lost the ability to tolerate dairy. The dairy problems grew progressively worse, going from being able to have a little, to having none at all. Then there were the blood sugar problems and the early onset of hot flashes.

Last November when I took the kids to Carpenteria for the school holiday, I noticed that I had no trouble using the soap in the motel. I decided to go back to my old soap, the soap I’d used when I was first married, and see if I could use it. I had no problem, and haven’t had a problem with any soaps since.

I realized that the timing couldn’t be a coincidence. It had only been late September when, in my realization that my husband couldn’t have cared less if I died or not, I had been able to emotionally break away from him. I know it is directly related, because a lot of other things are going back to normal as well.

When I left Stan in February, I lost the ability to eat spicy food. It honestly is the most awful stuff, just like it used to be. And onions, yuck. This is just like it was before I was married. And this morning I enjoyed coffee in a way I hadn’t in many years, able to taste the coffee and the creamer both. As for the dairy, well, let’s just say I’ve been really enjoying more than my share of ice cream. πŸ™‚

I went to a friend’s house for Easter dinner and was so glad I didn’t have to worry about what they were serving and what I could eat.

This isn’t a fluke. There are several studies that have been done that show that remaining in a bad relationship is worse for your health than being single. But I don’t need to spend your tax dollars to tell you that. However, if you’d like to make any donations of Blue Bunny ice cream, they’d be appreciated. πŸ˜€


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