I am extremely thankful for those who are building awareness of domestic abuse. Their information has helped me to understand what happened to me and to begin to work through all the garbage so I can go on and have a good life. One particular group I want to point you to is Awareness Wednesdays. It’s a Facebook group and they post a slew of links on Wednesday to help people not only understand what domestic abuse is, but what it looks like so people who are in these relationships can see what’s going on is actually abuse, and, hopefully, others will learn what abuse is.
This weeks help to me was an article on Gaslighting. This is something my ex has done a lot. I didn’t know it was so common that there is an actual term for it. That’s helpful because, as with all the other things he’s done, I see it’s a fairly usual thing for abusers to do. Seriously, I do believe there’s some kind of school they all attend to learn these things.
For those who don’t have time to read the entire article, here is a pic that summarizes:
I cannot tell you what a relief it is to learn that this is “normal” for an abuser, that I’m not the only one who has gone through this, and that there are people out there who also want to use their experiences to help women to get out of abusive relationships or to avoid them.