Day 7: Love

Well, surprise! I’ve made it all the way to day 7 and without incident. Only a few more days to go…*cough-cough*

(This is part of 31 Days of Five Minute Free Writes and also ties in with Domestic Violence Awareness Month.)

silenceSilence by John Henry Fuseli

What is love? The usual response from Christians is to quote 1 Corinthians 13. But what does that mean? And how do we know we are actually being loving?

I ask because I was raised in the culture of silence. In this culture I was taught that to speak out against the abuse, and I mean all the abuse, including sexual abuse, was un-loving. I was told that God would not want me to shame the people who had committed the crimes. I was told that Christ Himself was silent as a lamb lead to the slaughter, so I, too, must remain silent.

Knowing how Scripture can be twisted, I now ask people who quote it to tell me what they really mean.

What is love?

I found an interesting quote today, which, not really oddly because that’s usually how God works, tied into what I was planning to write. (Ref. Mark 10:17-31)

Jesus, looking at him, loved him,” the text says.  Jesus loved him — and so he said the truthful thing, the hard, unpalatable thing he knew would cause the young man’s fervor to dissipate on the spot.

(The God Who Is)

Christ doesn’t mince words. And He doesn’t protect this rich man. Why? I thought God was love and the love was always this “kind and gracious” thing (as defined by man).

I ask, however, how loving is it to allow a sinner to continue in his or her sin and then on to Hell? Because, that is exactly what we do when we are silent about abuse. By allowing them to continue, by “protecting” their earthly reputation, we are very un-lovingly sending them to Hell.

What is love?

According to Christ, Love is Truth.


Today’s “bonus” link: Why Pastors Struggle With Confronting Domestic Violence

2 Comments Add yours

  1. carlybenson says:

    I like that description of love as truth. I agree- sometimes love means saying hard things that a person may not want to hear but may be in their best interests. I think a lot of it is about our motives as well- are we really seeking what’s best for the person (as with Jesus) or just seeking to control (as with people telling you to stay silent about the abuse)?

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