If you’ve spent much time here, you’ll know I’ve had a life-long question which no pastor I ever asked had an answer for, namely, how do you honor your parents when they do nothing honorable? In my case, both my parents abused my siblings and myself from a very young age (my paternal grandmother told me she witnessed my brother, in particular, being beaten regularly before he could even crawl…why she did nothing, I’m still dealing with).
So, of course, today’s prompt ‘honor’ forced me to re-visit my question. And, well, what better way to either find an answer or make myself terribly depressed, than to google it?
I found a good article that gave me a good answer. I particularly liked this quote:
You can honor them by accepting them for who they are, not expecting change, and letting them live their own way in peace, but at the same time honor yourself and your own right to live in peace as well. Which means choosing NOT to be in their presence when they are abusing you.
PS To be fair to my current pastors, I have not asked this question of them. I gave up asking hard questions of pastors a long time ago.
This part of 31 Days of Five Minute Writing. October is also National Domestic Violence Awareness month.