This is probably the most loaded prompt I’ve had in a while. Loaded because this is the theme for one of the BuJo communities I’m in for January. So “focus” has been my buzz-word since the middle of January. I debated what to write, there is so much I want to say. There are nice things, about getting my focus right, about focusing on the things we need to work on in order to succeed in the way we would like. I’m focused on learning more at the farm, and on getting things together here at the house. Ultimately, I’m focused on moving on, on walking out of the darkness of nearly five decades of abuse and into, well, whatever normal is. And, of course, now I can. I can focus on that, I can focus on these other things because my focus no longer needs to be on trying to please my abuser, or any abuser for that matter. Breaking away from that enabled me to focus on Christ, make Him the true Lord of my life, instead of the abuser demanding that position. I can focus on my kids and their needs, instead of only on what my abuser demands of me, which is always everthing. I can focus on the dreams I had, the ones he took and destroyed. I can make them a reality now. I can focus on all these things now, my mind more clear than it has ever been in my life, because the abuse is gone. Sure, the abuser would love to continue it, but he can’t, I won’t let him, or anyone else ever again, for that matter. Like their father the devil, the abusers steal and destroy. They steal our focus away from God, they destroy our souls. When we get away from them, we can focus on the things God wants us to focus on in a way no one under abuse is ever able to. The abuser simply won’t allow it.