Help me if you can I’m feeling down
And I do appreciate you being around
Help me get my feet back on the ground
Won’t you please, Help me?
(as an aside, I hate The Beatles’ music, there was a revival during my high school years and that’s all they played in our one radio station town…ugh, don’t bring back the mid-80s)
How do you help someone who is down?
I used to think platitudes and advice were helpful. I thought this way because that’s what I was always given whenever I had trouble. It wasn’t until the last few months when I began to realize that those aren’t helpful. In fact, they are hurtful.
And I realized this because of the people who weren’t doing it.
I noticed that when I sat with a person who just listened, my spirit was lifted and I went away feeling, I don’t know, better? But when I would be with a person who just wanted to give advice or remind me that I’m not trusting God enough in my problems, I felt worse. Often, these words were justified by saying “the Spirit is telling me.”
Yep, so if I don’t listen to that person, I’m disobeying God, I’m just an awful person, inadequate and if I’d just listen to them, er, The Spirit, all my troubles would be solved, I could put the happy face on, and they would be so much more comfortable. I mean, God would be pleased.
Funny thing is, Hollywood gets this while far too many of us in the church don’t.
(Hint: Joy is not helping)
(Linking up with Five Minute Friday)